EPISODES 1- 10
Episode One: Welcome to Daughters Who Dare
You found us! Welcome to the Daughters Who Dare community. I like using the word community because many of us have felt alone as we learned how to survive and thrive as children of narcissistic parents. We will be having honest and organic conversations about all aspects of this unique relationship. As well as speaking our truth, we are bringing hope and humor to the table. Grab a coffee and get comfortable. We’re glad you’re here.
Released on 3rd December 2023
Episode Two: So Many Definitions of a Narcissistic Mother
If asked to define a narcissistic parent, we may use similar words, but our experiences make each definition unique. In this episode, we touch the tip of the narcissistic iceberg, knowing full well that there is so much to explore beneath the surface. There isn’t a dictionary big enough to contain all of our definitions and words may be limiting or not suffice, but we have made a start. Writing our own definitions and knowing what they are matters.
Released on 3rd December 2023
Episode Three: Ready or Not - You’re Welcome Here
Growing up and dealing with a narcissist parent can be challenging, exhausting, even soul destroying. But it doesn’t have to hold you down or hold you back. When I was younger, I would have loved to find and connect with others who got it…who got me. That acceptance, support and validation would have been life-changing. Although I didn’t have it, I wanted to create it. Wherever you are in your journey, come and join us. We get it. We’ve got you.
Released on 17th December 2023
Episode Four: There is No Answer Sheet
In order to survive and thrive as a child of a narcissistic parent, you need to find tools and strategies that work for you. I wish I could hand out cliff notes or a cheat sheet that had all the answers. They don’t exist. When you realise the truth, naming it and accepting it for what it is, you figure it out the best way you can. Our stories may be unique, but they share a common thread.
Released on 31st December 2023
Episode Five: I Want to Be a Mom - But, Not My Mom
On my 1st birthday, I got my first doll baby. From that moment on, I wanted to be a Mom. I had it all planned out. I would get married and have four children and, as promised in all the fairy tales, live happily ever after. My role play looked nothing like real life. As I got older, the dream was mixed with fear. I wanted to be a mom, but not my mom. Could I separate the two
Released on 14th January 2024
Episode Six: Parents Do Their Best…But Do They?
“Parents do their best.” I have heard that statement all of my life. I don’t agree. The truth is that some parents make good choices and make some mistakes, all with good intentions and a sincere heart. Other parents don’t. Believing that statement, as a child of a narcissist, only made me full of blame, shame and guilt. It also relieved the parent of any responsibility or accountability because they were ‘doing their best’. In this episode, I challenge that all too familiar phrase and set the story straight.
Released on 28th January 2024
Episode Seven: Keep Your Receipts
One of the favourite things a narcissistic parent does is try to make you think you’re crazy. It doesn’t stop there. They need to convince others too. So, keep your receipts. Holding onto the truth, no matter the format, enables you to preserve your sanity. It sounds dramatic, but those reminders can be game-changers. They are proof. You aren’t crazy. They are.
Released on 11th February 2024
Episode Eight: Once You See It, You Can’t Unsee It
I didn’t always use that word - narcissist. But, once I did, it stuck like a label on a pickle jar. For years, I would describe her in many words and give examples of her nasty behaviour and show the many scars I live with, but true clarity happened when I saw her for what she is. My eyes and ears were fully opened. Now, I can’t unsee it.
Released on 25th February 2024
Episode Nine: Sorry…Not Sorry!
Forgiveness is hard to do, especially as the child of a narcissist. I was expected to forgive, yet the adult in the relationship could do whatever they wanted, whenever they wanted. It didn’t make sense. It wasn’t fair. So, I made the decision…a huge decision. I didn’t need to forgive them. Instead, I began to forgive myself.
Released on 10th March 2024
Episode Ten: I’m Possible
How often do we take time to stop and reflect? It is not only important, but necessary to do just that. As the relationship between child and narcissistic parent lasts a lifetime (and beyond), those pauses can make all the difference. Every now and again, allow yourself the time. Take a good look at who you are and just how far you have come. You did that! Be proud!